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@kezia I thinks parent A is overwhelmed. SAHM is a full time job, so is a WFH. This seems like a unsustainable system. So this should never have been the routine to start with. However, if both parents agree with this plan... and parent B is following "normal routine", I can see why they didn't...

@keepitsimple144 My 2 brothers (twins) and I all have the same birthday (me and them are years apart)... my father manages to forget. lol

@margrethe Keep working. And stop doing things for him and take time off. I almost never cook dinner. I sleep in on weekends. I tell him ahead of time that I'm going to take XYZ time off. If he forgot, guess he'll have to cancel his plans or take the kids with him. I used to kick him/nudge him...

@nathan98 What sacrifice has he made? It's not about fairness. Life isn't fair. Sometimes you have to support your spouse. But she's been doing that for 1.5 years of residency and 4 years of med school... and if he doesn't get his butt back in the game, she'll be doing it for the next 50 years...

@nathan98 Idk if you didn't see it or hear it... she's also hurt as well. She's carrying too much of the burden. Marriage comes first when your spouse also puts marriage first. If you are putting him and marriage first while he's not, that's also not going to work.

@margrethe 50/50 only makes sense if you are both contributing equally in and out of the home... which is almost never the case. We did 50/50 until we had a kid (before we had same pay, down to the dollar and he did pull his equal "adult chores") Ps. When I was pregnant and on disability, I...

@goldensleather That's really really rough. He's going to have a huge uphill battle to face to get re-matched into residency. Maybe he's finding this almost like an impossible barrier and getting super frustrated? I know when I feel like I have a huge task that seems impossible, I tend to...

@goldensleather He may not have a choice. He's not exactly the most desirable candidate. If he is to match into anything, he will likely not have the luxury to choose which program he goes to. So either you move with him, or he moves by himself. Anesthesia is really really hot right now, it's...