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@987abc Daycare my daughter is enrolled part time (2 full days per week) for $100/wk. If I need additional childcare there is a drop-in daycare that charges $8.50/hr. Frankly this drop-in daycare has alleviated my need for sitters however if I was going out at night it would not work as they...

@kristinat Yeah definitely people should use judgement on when to say it! Like, don't pile it on or use as a fear tactic. It's so individual.

@kristinat It depends on the kid and other life circumstances whether it gets worse or not. Some kids really are easier as babies; I know because I had one. I wouldn't call my daughter difficult now but there is a lot more friction in our relationship and a lot more times of frustration. That's...

@jenny404 And to that point, there's also a big difference between candidly sharing one's own experience vs trying to use that experience as an argument for someone should or shouldn't do.

@jc4me What a moron. Sales is one field where you don't want to show your ass by making tone deaf assumptions, it will be very quickly reflected in your paycheck. This sounds like the type of salesperson where a minority or single mom walks in and he starts telling them what kind of travel...

@evilbeans This is similar to how I feel (different logistics -- didn't adopt -- but same emotions). When people listed the reasons one is so much better (or at least not worse) it just felt hollow. Almost patronizing, as if my hopes and dreams were so silly that little redirection would all it...

@littledot You've gotten great replies already but I'll just add this. When someone makes a remark like that to me, my default is ask myself whether it's true. "Am I selfish? I don't think so. Here's why I don't think so: First, Reason A; then, Reason B, then, Reason C..." I've found (usually...

@stripe I had so many of those days! My daughter entered the kicking phase at 3.5. I thought it was emotional. I was trying to conceive #2 (using donor sperm) and actually got pregnant and made the mistake of telling her way too early that she was going to have a sibling. That's when the...

@ericguitarman I'm not trying to be a wet blanket but this is just not true for every kid. My daughter got more challenging around one year. She walked at 14 months, talked at 15 months, and I read later the pre-walking phase makes some babies very moody -- definitely true with her. (Source...

@towerwatchman I mean, she had to write a number of siblings. So 0 siblings is the number she has. So I don't think that necessarily has any emotion associated with it, she was just answering the question. And no, I don't think these activities are appropriate in school. Having zero siblings...

@pecosheero I think of my daughter as NT (I mean maybe only in comparison to me? lol) but I would also rather go back to the 1-4 age (Edit: maybe the 1-3.5 age -- 3.5 is when she decided she has an agenda and she's going to pursue it.). She is fairly good at finding friends and reasonably...

@acuriousgirl Oh! Interesting to know. Well I guess I don't need to beat myself up over that, then. It's easy to look back with "if only"s and sometimes it's not really that simple. Sorry you've been through these nasty dental experiences too, I'm finding some vague comfort in knowing I'm less...

@skyblue77 I hear you. They told me to continue the prenatals and I actually thought it was silly -- at the time, I thought, this is a 1st world country, no one here is nutrient deprived. I figured I tolerated the silliness while I was pregnant, now that's over and I'm not going to do it...

@huskyblue Sure, glad it was helpful! These conversations can be difficult for all of us. Best of luck and take care!

@huskyblue I'm in a different situation bc single so no partner to negotiate with. Also was originally very upset about not being able to have a second child due to age related infertility. First no it's not childish and selfish, any more than any personal preference. Would it be selfish to not...

@skyblue77 I've had dental problems since pregnancy too including a root canal! In hindsight I think taking post-natal vitamins while I was ebf would have helped because it just sucks all the minerals out of your body, even more so than pregnancy. But -- unfortunately quite a bit of damage is...

@girl4god86 Honestly I think some people just don't have the wherewithal to extricate themselves from the expectations that "the show must go on." Usually it's the woman whose health is in jeopardy and the male partner sometimes doesn't understand the gravity of it (based on attitudes like, "I...