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@sarukan65 Thank you. Sometimes during rec only days it felt like a marathon. I’m missing those days. Right now it feels like clean house, alone time, or family time. Pick one.

@beorh I’m really sorry to hear that! We’re definitely doing our best to keep things fair and easier on her. When competition was in session and dad was still doing drop offs, I’d have him drop her off at my office before 5:00 games. I couldn’t be home before they had to leave. That way she only...

@sedonarose I find myself wanting them all the time. Which Ik is super unreasonable. Especially bc I’m a step. But I feel bad for them going back and forth to different households living double lives. We never bash their mom or her choices, but she lets them skip school whenever, have unlimited...

@rockdrik Definitely! I think something I could improve on is getting to know more parents who like doing YMCA swimming. Or maybe somebody with a likeminded 8 YO who wants to recreationally lift weights? I do think that the physical activity+ challenge+ social aspect is what’s important to him...

@rockdrik I feel like kindred spirits here. Right now it’s definitely the case that SO, I, and daughter are all living our lives around son’s soccer. We don’t have a whole lot of flexibility or spare $ to go around to ease other burdens. It’s tough, because the only parents I really interact...

@morningstarstillsmiling I was worried about this. So far (3rd grade) his rec team that started immediately after travel is surprisingly great. It helps that a lot of the same kids are on this team from travel. I’m thinking this time of year lots of families will have their travel kids in fall...

@katrina2017 That’s amazing! I’m not anti- athletic scholarship. I’d be super proud. What I don’t like is parents pushing/forcing sports with the main agenda of a sports scholarship. I’ve known people who have been just miserable with these dynamics. I think extracurriculars should be fun and...

@kdr95 Oh god, I feel like your niece/nephew’s story gave me a glimpse into my future. No WAY do I want to be doing homework on bleachers, eating in cars more often than not, or (ew) focusing on a non academic scholarship. If they got one I’d be incredibly proud. But I’d NEVER try and pressure...

@4lifephotography O M G! Honestly this gives me controlling vibes. She doesn’t want you to be in a relationship (you’d be busier and less likely to accommodate them). She doesn’t want to be the bad guy (blamed you for the affair/split). Doesn’t want you to turn them down for trade offs in their...

@4lifephotography Omg! I’m a step in the position of having a pushy friendship forces onto me. It’s been going on for 5 years. Yours is so much worse. Really… the affair partner’s feelings are hurt? Come on! What helped my SO was setting a lot more clear boundaries and only ever doing things...

@goldenmindset Yikes, that’s tough. So she’s not even moving for her job, she’s following her new spouse? Who knows, maybe you’ll both get to set down roots for a bit. I’ve known military recruiters who stayed in one location for their last 15 years.

@goldenmindset Oh my goodness, that must be so difficult! Are you both military by chance? I hated when my parents lived an hour apart. Right now I get annoyed that my kid’s school commute is 40 minutes round trip 😅 I’m sure you both have your reasons.

@goldenmindset It’s not personal. The stepkids have struggled with attention span on FT between the ages of 2 and 8. I’ve seen it myself and with grandparents, the other parent, AND their friends/cousins. They started to get slightly better at 7/8. It’s simply not a substitute for 1:1 time...

@4rtlauderdale Simple and well put! Life has certainly been an inferno. I cannot imagine 2 kids competing at this level. Honestly even with the 1 it gratefully mostly lined up with dad’s winter layoff and we were still losing it.

@emilyd Are you my mom? Because this sounds exactly like my upbringing and interest set 😂 I’m not going to lie, a guilty part of me wishes they were nerdier. I’m SO happy and supportive of them talking to me about soccer for hours on end and trying my best to help them practice. I’d be totally...

Not much to elaborate on here. Read more if you want. In my situation kids are 6 & 8. They’ve both been doing rec soccer since age of 5 and started doing fall indoor soccer practice 1x/week at 6. This year dad signed 8 Y/O up for competitive club soccer. 3-4 night commitment for 5-6 months. 2...

@carolvdmerwe Ugh, what a MESS. I feel for you. It’s logical that extracurriculars follow the school district. It really might be worth mediation/adjusting CO language. I know that’s subjective because court costs are so intimidating. But I think it’s in the best interest of kids to have sports...

@carolvdmerwe Ughhh how old is he? That’s so unfortunate. IMO extracurriculars should be a 2 yes/one no situation. You sort of have to let him go to the game. But talk to your ex. How would SHE feel if you unilaterally started scheduling things during her custodial time? We tried to navigate...

@carolvdmerwe Oof. Info- how long has basketball been in session? Is there any CO/language about extracurriculars? Have you said anything to her before? I wouldn’t force him to miss his first game. But I’d talk to him and the coach and let them know that for your next weekend you have plans and...