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    Parent Child Coercive Cycle Vs attachment/gentle parenting?

    @acuriousgirl Can you say more about what you feel isn’t working, perhaps with an example or two?
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    What to do when best is impossible (Emily Oster)

    @follow_the_word What an interesting question! I had to sleep on it to think about it more and so may be late to comment, but I'll try anyway. I disagree with Emily Oster on this: I don't think clear advice on second (and third, and so on) best options can or should be given - mostly because...
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    Just my critique of that day care Medium article that is always circulating this sub as it relates to nannies and familial care

    @dkeefe To clarify, this is how I would edit the sentence: "Before 2½, any committed, caring relative or another caregiver gives the best outcomes. Failing that, nannies are probably better than childminders (in-home daycare) and both are certainly better than daycare centers." (my additions in...
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    Just my critique of that day care Medium article that is always circulating this sub as it relates to nannies and familial care

    @dkeefe You're right that these factors are important, but if I had to pick two things based on the reading and analysis I've done (summarized here: choosing daycare for your baby), they would be (1) physical safety, and (2) a consistent, committed, knowledgeable caregiver with whom the child...
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    I don’t have a mom or a lot of family. Give me some motherly advice and tips about my first born

    @madscribbler Hardest earned advice: If, once your baby arrives, you feel out of your depth, know that it's totally normal and to be expected. Try to learn how babies develop and what's good for them in a broad sense (there is usually whole range of good options) and then take time to get to...
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    Infant Screen Time Studies

    @skyrue Glad you found it useful! Yes, 1 hour can be a good portion of a baby's day. And then when the baby has a nap, the memories they made during their time awake get sorted and integrated into memory - and so if they largely watched a screen, their brain might not have much "to work with"...
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    Infant Screen Time Studies

    @skyrue My goal in this article was to get to the why behind the no-screen-time-for-under-2s recommendation (fully referenced; all studies listed at the end of the article). See if you find it helpful. Edit: typo
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    What to do when best is impossible (Emily Oster)

    @wemchud Yes, and so I think what can help is not "here's the next best advice" but "here's the WHY behind our (first best) advice so you can make your own informed decisions".
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    Challenging my doctor’s potentially old school advice on solid food for baby

    @danmat777 This - the importance of iron and the fact that babies, especially breastmilk-fed ones, deplete iron stores by about 6 months - is true, but iron-fortified cereal is not the only way to introduce iron-rich foods to baby. Iron in cereals is less bioavailable than heme iron in, say...
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    Still not adjusted at daycare after over 3 months -- help!

    @religiondoctor If there is flexibility, maybe you could try it for a few weeks? My youngest has been going to daycare part time, 3 consecutive days a week, since 20 months old. Every morning, he asks what kind of day it is, a 'daycare day', a 'me and mommy home day', or an 'all-body home day'...
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    Hunt, gather, parent

    @joshdons Have you read “Our Babies, Ourselves”? If not, you might enjoy it!
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    "Cry it out" is not a well-defined term

    @sawry1 Yes, thank you, that's a good point. We definitely did our best to have all the pieces of sleep hygiene in place (environment, routines, watching tired signs/wake windows, early bedtimes, etc.). But I guess I also sort of guided my babies toward sleeping alone/connecting sleep cycles...
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    Still not adjusted at daycare after over 3 months -- help!

    @religiondoctor It sounds like you've created a wonderful physical and emotional environment for her at home and found a daycare with similar values - well done! One thing I would do is switch to consecutive days if possible. That could make a big difference in helping your daughter recognize a...
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    "Cry it out" is not a well-defined term

    @rockhopper72 I agree that it's important to describe what is meant, not just say CIO - or better yet, use specific terms as you suggested. And I agree that even the term 'sleep training' is not well defined: does it always imply some form of extinction? I am never sure what to call the...
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    Challenging my doctor’s potentially old school advice on solid food for baby

    @retirementproject In my husband's baby keepsake box we found notes from his pediatrician: at 6 weeks, 'feed 5 times a day with 2% cow’s milk and boiled water with corn syrup, along with 1-3 tablespoons of barley, rice, or oat cereal with 1-3 oz of formula before 10 am, 2 pm, and 6 pm feedings'...
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    C-Section Babies and Probiotics. What’s the science?

    @christian99 Also, babies in general shouldn’t drink cow’s milk until after 12 months because cow’s milk inhibits iron absorption (and iron is very important when babies first start solids), and also for a couple of other reasons. It sounds like you don’t really need to know this yet - lots of...
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    Dogs and kiddo sharing back yard

    @wyatt1525 You might be able to make a really fun space for your toddler even if the space is quite small. Here's an example of a yes-space on a small balcony: https://www.janetlansbury.com/2019/07/how-to-create-a-yes-space-outdoors-when-you-dont-have-a-yard/.
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    Dogs and kiddo sharing back yard

    @wyatt1525 Why is it not possible to create separate areas? Might you be able to gate off a small outdoor ‘Yes space’ for your toddler? There are some nice examples if you Google ‘yes space’.
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    How unlucky was I?

    @daphne1 If you decide to go for another baby, my advice would be to try and resolve your existing health challenges as best you can and find the best prenatal health care team you can find - a team that would focus on your specific situation and and not probabilities only, both before and...
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    C-Section Babies and Probiotics. What’s the science?

    @lolad I looked into this question briefly 2 year ago for the same reason as you and got the same general answer at the time. We ended up trying Biogaia drops on the advice of our paediatrician, and they seem to have helped, but there were confounding factors (my baby was also weaned off reflux...
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