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@mydaughter Thank you! We've spoken to the doctor and a social worker about hypersensitivity, but they both pretty much shrugged and said kindergarten is loud, they'd feel the same. I'm especially grateful for the tip with choosing an evaluation place. There are a few that offer them from the...

@blessedbythebest88 My husband said this is something he'd like to pursue, so thank you! I'm sorry for the very brief response but I'm completely overwhelmed by the amount of comments I got 😅

@katrina2017 I don't like to list his accomplishments because that usually puts people off or starts a competition - things I'd like to avoid. Reading and maths are part of it, but not the whole story. Autism and ADHD are things I've brought up a few times at milestone assessments because a...

@jilliang I don't think we can afford a therapist right now, both in terms of time and money. I'd love to though, because you are right: we have no one to speak to about this. We already do this, yay! He's outside a lot, but with winter coming this will become an issue. He's not good with being...

@73552 We shut that down quickly and gently but it's impossible to do. We're "kids" in our late 30s who have never raised kids, so what do we know. We need to pick our battles.

@73552 Thank you for your perspective. There seems to be a huge overlap between ADHD and giftedness. I see this a lot in academic circles. I've commented elsewhere that we try (and I often fail) to praise effort more than achievement, but unfortunately both sides of the family fawn over our...

@berik Thank you for the tips! We do loads of games, because covid, lockdowns, quarantine, and now bad weather. Loosing though, is a huge issue we're sometimes too tired to tackle. Other times not or we find compromises (e.g. "I don't want to play if you make me lose, you can play alone and I'll...

@samlovesjesus Wow, that was a difficult read. Poor girl was failed by so many people and was not prepared for how life can throw curveballs at you. I hope she does heal from this and protects her daughter, too. Fortunately, my husband and I have been together for a long time, in good times and...

@solvalou44 My husband would divorce me.

@imnathaniel Learning to learn is something we try hard to teach him. Do you know of any good strategies for that? Comparisons with the achievements of others is something we specifically want to avoid. I'm sorry you were put in that position.

@jandrews Oh, you are absolutely right. That's one of the reasons I'm hesitant to send him to school at 5. So far thought we've gotten good feedback on emotions from milestone assessments but he's 3 so how much self control can he have haha.

@desperatehokie Thank you so much for this thoughtful response! I feel like you hit the nail on the head. I'm just going to send this as a whole to my husband.

@valentina13888 We've mostly signed him up for classes to meet other kids and practice things he's not so good at. Being bored alone is not something he can do but I was the same until way later. Do you have any tips for that? We are feeling pressure because he will be fed into the...

@ernestservant I guess we forget and expect more emotional maturity and less testing boundaries. If he does regular 3 y/o things are we're tired, we can be too strict (still gentle parenting as much as sleep deprivation allows). I'm working on that a lot. There is an after school program for...

@christianbella Absolutely agree. I was sold the lie that being the youngest to do X was the path to success. Turns out burnout can really mess up your future plans.

@simondarok Thank you for your perspective on skipping grades. I'd rather he go to 1st grade at 5 or 6. We're definitely not pushing him to "achieve great things" because that doesn't sound healthy and has messed up some of our distant family members. We'd like him to be happy and earn enough...

@joyandhope You're being very hard on yourself. I'd be more than happy if he grew up to be a mediocre scientist. The consensus does seem to be to keep him at age rather than intellectual development level.

@gizmorazaar Wow, you've described my son. He seems also very engaged in preschool and likes it there. But he doesn't love it and doesn't care to talk about it/his day there much. We don't care about him being first and youngest to do X. I believed this in school and uni, so I know first hand...

@whittney1234 That's a good tip with talking about what might happen in advance. I've also explained to him I don't want to be made to lose, so if he wants to change the rules so much, he can play alone while I watch. This workaround has helped a bit when the competitiveness and associated...

@katrina2017 You bring up a lot of good points. We're very much letting him guide us, which is why I know a lot about fire extinguishers but am also trying to figure out how to explain division (ironically, something I struggled with in school). We also haven't followed any curriculum but a...