@qork I was told FMLA/maternity leave didn't kick in until the baby was out. I could take vacation or sick for labor, but not maternity leave. So she's probably checking the rules so you don't get burned.
@lesbian5eva My MIL did something similar. It only worked because both parties were completely dedicated to this is what they wanted. They needed MIL's salary and needed FIL to finish. It was exhausting, but they had clear boundaries and both knew they'd essentially be working 12 hour days. MIL...
@jwesley I live in a community with a lot of military. I see the impacts. I absolutely would not do this. It will fundamentally change your family dynamics and there's a reason why most families will break under this.